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July 11, 2005



Sounds like you need to learn to say no and to stop shopping at Costco so your checkbook balances like you expect it to.

Elizabeth Albrycht

As someone who recently invited you to add to your workload, I have to chime in here. First - there is no hard deadline! We can reschedule. Your life is important.

Second - as an independent worker from hom I feel your pain. Here are some hard won tips:

Tip #1: Always add a day to when you think you will get something done (never promise ANYTHING the same day). Even if it is a little thing. Add more days for big things. Honestly, most things don't need to be done in real time. The trick is figuring out which do and which don't.

Tip 2: Always take one hour a day just for yourself. I spend mine walking in the park. I spend that entire hour thinking about work stuff (generally) but because my body is moving and I am not behind my desk, it doesn't feel like work. And I get most of my awesome ideas then.

Tip 3: Always schedule your meetings during the same time frame. Mine are all between 4 p.m. and 7 p.m. I generally don't schedule anything outside that time (given the time differences I work with, being in Europe). If you are doing more meetings per week than fit into that timeslots you are WASTING too much time (see #4).

Tip 4: Avoid meetings/conference calls unless truly necessary. Most things can be solved via email or IM.

Tip 5: Don't take on too much work. The money isn't worth the exhaustion.


You're going to Puerto Rico? I hope you plan to give yourself some real down time while you're there. Spend some time literally floating...on your back...in the pool or the Caribbean...and just LET GO for a bit. I say that as someone who has spent considerable time floating on her back in the Caribbean (we just moved from there)...just floating and looking up at that blue, blue sky and the gorgeous clouds. Because how else will you know if all of that scheduled pushing and brief face time at social events is how you really want to structure your life if you don't take a few hours to just do NOTHING? But then I tend to believe that our big answers often come in those 'nothing' moments (floating, showering, etc.) rather than when we're in serious "I must figure it out" mode. I got some great answers while floating on my back in the Caribbean...I saw that I was far from my personal shore...and started to see in those clouds how I could begin to find my way back...

Troy Worman

I'm in the process of rewriting my definition of success. Thanks to Curt Rosengren. Curt recented posted a nice piece at Occupational Adventure on Time Abundance. Time Abundance is having the time to live life, all of life, fully. Not making the time. Having the time. It is a simple concept and not new, but worth mentioning, because we all forget to breath from time to time. It's easy to do, breathing. It's natural. It's almost automatic. Almost. So, I've written it down. Time Abundance. And breath.

Jennifer Warwick

Thank you so much for sharing this. My husband and I both work from home, ten minutes from the ocean, and realized on a recent trip to Alaska (I don't say "vacation" since much of it was spent doing activities for a family wedding) that we had not been to the beach in a year. Maybe - okay, definitely - longer.

I say "yes" to projects because I yearn for the connection of working with others, and then book myself so thoroughly that I can only spend momemts on each. I look forward to travel time because when I'm on a plane, I'm away from cell and e-mail...and then feel guilty I'm not schmoozing with the person in the next seat. I'd call a client on this stuff in a heartbeat, but as for calling myself on it...well, I'm just too busy :-)

Thanks for the wake-up call. Looking forward to BlogHerCon.

Koan Bremner

As far as giving pithy advice is concerned, I'll pass (for now); I'm too recently back into solohood to feel justified in so doing. But I *would* like to thank you for helping me feel a little less inadequate on one point; I have an unfortunate tendency to say "kinda like" or "kinda sorta" far more than I would like (actually, I'd prefer not to say them at all); and you've written one of them in this post! Now I feel considerably less anal about my oral laziness! So, thank you! :-)

Anita Campbell

Jory, this so-o-o-o captures the essence of the self-employed entrepreneur. Wanting more time, but having less of it. Wanting a better lifestyle but not being able to turn off work. Wanting to be in control, but having more uncertainty.

I love this series!


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